Make a decision to change
We are not victims. We can change anything we want! If you don't want to struggle with food anymore…then make the decision to stop.
You CAN reach your health and wellness goals without giving up your fave foods, you just might have to change your habits.
Here are some questions to help you pull yourself out of struggle mode and empower you to be a leader in your own life:
+ Who do you want to be? How do you want to feel?
+ What's NOT working?
+ Where will you be in a year if you don't make a change?
+ What's the BEST case scenario?
Get clear on your WHY
What's motivating you? What drives you to get out of bed in the morning? What pisses you off? If you feel like you're struggling with something, it means that it matters to you. Why does being healthy and happy matter? Dig deeper than the superficial reasons.
+ Whose lives will change when you can love and accept yourself for who you are?
+ What will you be able to do when you're full of vibrant energy, and aren't constantly obsessing about your weight or your body image?
Give yourself a destination to move toward!
A lot of times we hold ourselves back even if we really want to change, just because the struggle is COMFY for us! It's what we know.
Just because you've never been able to lose the weight, or stick to a healthy eating plan without falling off the wagon, doesn't mean you can't.
+ How do you want to feel in your body and in your relationship with food?
Re-write the stories you're telling yourself
Our realities are based on the beliefs and stories we're telling ourselves. As long as you keep telling yourself "food and weight will be a lifelong struggle for me" guess what? It will!
But if you start telling yourself things like "I am a woman who uses food as fuel to nourish my body because I love myself," guess what? Even if you don't believe yourself at first, you'll slowly start to shift your behaviors to line up with that new story.
+ What habits or beliefs do you want to release?
+ What habits or beliefs will you have to replace them with?
+ What will you have to change in order to become the person you want to be?
Give yourself an easy win to build your confidence back up
It's important to build confidence in yourself so you can trust that you're a woman of integrity who will follow through on your goals.
+ What can you do TODAY to make yourself feel proud?
It doesn't have to be food or exercise related. When you experience success in one area of life, it will boost your confidence overall. Woohoo!
Pick ONE focus at a time, then build on that!
A lot of times we make things way too complicated. When we try to change everything at once, obviously we're going to feel overwhelmed.
Embrace the baby step.
Embrace being a beginner, even if it's awkward and gives you uncomfy freshman flashbacks.
Embrace the process.
+ What is something you can do TODAY to move forward one step?
HAVE EPIC SELF COMPASSION AND PATIENCE
These kind of deep changes take time!! Just because you aren't where you want to be yet doesn't mean that you're a failure.
Whenever we are going through change, even good change, we are going to bring up a lot of our old insecurities and patterns to the surface b/c deep down we're afraid of change. You are going to swing back and forth and "fall off the wagon" over and over along your journey.
This is not a sign that you're failing or that you aren't good enough. It's a sign that you are GROWING and changing and evolving.
Next time you're around unhealthy food options that you'd rather not eat because you know they'll make you feel like crap, remind yourself how you want to feel. Remind yourself WHY choosing healthy options matters. Remind yourself that you can TRUST yourself to indulge mindfully, then stop. You just have to build your own self confidence and trust in yourself, one day at a time, and keep course correcting!
Obviously this is all easier said than done.
Which is why we need support! Do you have a friend you can enlist to be your accountability buddy? Do you need a coach? A therapist? A supportive community?
I know you're strong, smart, and capable of anything. Don't isolate yourself or feel like you're struggling alone because I can guarantee almost every single woman I've ever met is dealing (or has dealt with) some sort of food or body image related insecurity.
If you'd like to chat more and get a customized plan of action, click here to book a complimentary consult with me! I've got your back girl, and I want to see you thrive :)